The exercise that changed (read here, drastically improved!) my life is the following. Imagine that your inner roommate (the voice in your head) is now a physical person. Now imagine that this person is sitting next to you while you are watching your favorite Netflix program or TV show. It starts: “This episode seems boring! Anyway, you should work out or play sports instead of just sitting there and watching a screen! Mmm… nahhh, you’re working hard these days and it’s okay for you to relax. Oh look!!! She looks like Judy!! Judy, it’s been a long time since you heard from her. Call her! No, later. No, Sunday, you will have more time on Sunday! What is wrong with me of always reporting to later. What are you eating tonight? Something healthy? Go to bed early because you have a big day tomorrow. I need go on vacation! But the prices have gone up so much…”
After only 5 minutes, you can’t take it anymore. Clearly, this person is mentally ill. It comments on everything she sees… and then comments on her own comments. It changes her mind and defends two contradictory opinions in less than 5 sentences. It can also glorify you and then make you feel guilty in seconds. Above all, It never shuts up.
Moreover, if you’re savvy, you’ll notice that your inner roommate is never satisfied (and never will be)…and can make up trouble with just about anything. Honestly, when is the last time you had absolutely no issues? You may now see that the cause of almost all your problems is not life itself, but your inner roommate’s dramatic scenarios.
What you have done in the past… is less important than what this voice is telling you. What’s to come in the future… is less scary than what this voice is telling you. You are a much more magnificent person than this voice tells you. ❤
True freedom is to step back and observe that voice. Above all, to realize every day that it is not you. It is simply a voice (your ego) speaking. Nothing else. Nothing is more important for your personal happiness to realize that you are not that voice that speaks in your head. In other words, just don’t take your thoughts too seriously. Once you start noticing that it’s just your voice talking, you won’t be constantly reacting to it and your life will change… for the better. ❤
In the next article, I’ll share one of my best strategies for managing my inner roommate. Thank you for reading this blog article, I’m grateful for it.
